如何愛一個自己看不起o既人...若看不起, 還叫愛嗎？
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Russell Peters 香港
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想成為一個好男仔，就要留意下面六點:
- 不打女人 - 任何男性出手打女人都是最差勁的行為。就算女朋友做錯事，最多與對方理論，動手打人是不可原諒的，返而是最失敗的男人。
- 有上進心 - 男孩子讀書成績差並不是甚麼問題，反而有沒有上進心，會不會為自己的前途鋪路，才是女孩子最關心的。女孩子最怕是有一個沒有責任心，一點也不可靠的男朋友。
- 有吸引力 - 男孩子不一定要俊朗才有女孩子垂青，反而一個有型有格的孩子，比一個樣靚但土氣的男孩子更有吸引力。所說的有型有格不是一定要緊貼潮流，打扮入時，而是他的打扮衣著配合他本身的外型及性格，這樣便能散發出他的型格來，自然能夠吸引喜歡他那類型的女孩子了!!
- 忌多言、炫耀 - 最怕男人老狗口水多不斷炫耀自己有多威風多富有，認識很多有地位的人。這種男人一看便知只有一張咀，信不過，又嚕囌，正常的好女孩都會怕了你!!
- 有男子氣概 - 真正的男人是要保護女性，不要怕事，要有勇氣去承擔後果，有主見和責任感，可以保護身邊的女孩子，予人有安全感，這才是男子氣概的表現。
- 有風度 - 男孩子一定要有 Gentleman 風度，風度是一個人細心的表現， 對對方照顧周到，關懷備至是男孩子應該做的，這不是刻意討好，而是基本禮儀。 一個人有風度的話，其實正表示他懂得關心別人，有禮貌和有修養。
想成為一個人見人愛的女仔，妳要留意下面十點:
- 忌粗魯 - 豪爽與粗魯是不同的，不要以為翹腳、叉腰、走路跨大步、分開兩腿坐就是為人爽直的表現。爽朗是內在性格的表現，不斤斤計較、不拘於小事、不亂發脾氣、大方兼有量度，這才是真正的爽朗。
- 忌無理取鬧 - 男孩最怕就是女孩太小器，小小事就鬧個不停。例如男方在街上四處張望，女方就罵他張望其他女孩; 又例如男方沒有空在約定時間打電話給女方，女方便以為男方欺騙自己，不知去了哪兒等等。這麼無理取鬧，試問又有誰能夠忍受得了？
- 忌揮霍 - 無論你亂用他的或自己的錢，任何一個男孩都會因為你亂花錢而覺得你是個很難服待的女孩，將來賺多少錢都會被妳花清光，因而怕了妳。
- 忌污糟邋遢 - 如果頭髮「油淋淋」，手指甲鑲了黑邊，衣服發出異味的人，真是人見人怕。若果一個女孩子是這樣，試問又怎會有男孩子喜歡呢?其實每個人都一定會有一點體味，因比最好用少許清涼的香水。
- 忌吸煙 - 十個男孩有九個都不喜歡自己的女友吸煙，就算他無所謂，但也寧願她不抽煙較好。有些男孩更規定自己一定不會選擇吸煙的女孩為女朋友。況且吸煙危害健康，為自己著想都不應該。
- 忌衣著過份性感 - 衣著打扮是一個人的性格表現，若是經常穿低胸衣服，或作性感打扮，便會予人不正經的感覺，甚至讓人誤會好穿那麼少布的衣服是想色誘別人吧！
- 忌吱吱喳喳 - 經常吱吱喳喳，永遠有說不完的話，你的男朋友一定覺得很煩，簡直是製造噪音。而且他一定不喜歡帶你去見的朋友，一來妳那麼多言，隨時會把他的私隱也說了出來，又或者不停追問他朋友有關他的事。
- 忌粗言穢語 - 一開口便是粗言穢語，不但難聽，更顯示出好是沒有教養的人。那些斯文有禮、有內涵、有學識的男孩子一定不會選擇。
- 忌嚕囌 - 經常在耳邊嚕嚕囌囌叫他這樣叫他那樣，會給男孩子無形的壓力。他本身可能已經有工作上或者學業上的壓力，若再過分要求他，他會透不過氣來。不但會覺得好很煩，而且會對好生厭。
- 忌過分約束 - 忌過分約束每個人也有自己的私人空間，基本上每個男孩子都喜歡有一些只屬於他與朋友的時間，若果好硬要他24小時陪著妳，又或者埋怨他常陪朋友, 又不准他去，總之任何事都要受妳約束，那麼到最後，他一定忍受不了。
- 所以話呢，女仔比男仔辛苦很多啦，男仔記得要愛惜身邊的女孩啦！
22 則留言:
愛一個人, 你唔一定會接受她所有既缺點, 但你會有耐性去改變或接受佢. 但係如果你對她的情感淡化, 她的缺點就會變成「篤眼篤鼻」- 覺得佢乞人憎, 見佢前憎佢後. 這樣的關係還叫愛嗎?
Um...actually I don't really get what the question is asking about and I wonder how the initiator of the question comes up with this.
愛別人看不起的人是真愛,愛自已看不起的人是白痴。
又如rephrase:
愛別人看不起的名牌是創新,愛自已看不起的名牌是犯賤。
如果不接受他/她的缺點又何為愛呢？ 兩人相處之道, 跟本就要學識怎樣包容同接納對方. 這個世界跟本 就沒有完美, 完美只會在電視世界出現!
愛有好多種﹐ 想這是其中一個吧。問題有D怪又有D難﹐我想首先這是兩個階段不同的感受。愛一開始是糊裡糊塗的﹐只會看到那人閃光的地方。真的相處了﹐又會發覺這不是自己所尋覓的﹐更有甚者﹐會覺得看不起。再回頭看﹐其實那一開始能說是愛嗎﹖還是那一點虛榮心﹐人有我有的心態作怪吧﹐ 有人對你好就先用住先﹐到你真的覺得不對﹐甚至看不起﹐就是時候該放手了﹐因為那點的虛榮和那點的新鮮已經EXPIRED,當然時間也在當中發揮了不少化學作用﹐好鄹好散﹐為人為己。P.S.開始發覺你看不起那個人﹐其實就好清楚﹐ 緣盡了。
當你看不起那個人, it doesn't mean you don't love him. It just means you don't have enough love to tolerate and accept both good and bads of him. If you truly love a person.. You'd willing to sacrifice something that is crossing your bottom line.. and it should happen naturally.. without forcing yourself to. That.. I'm still learning because we all do believe there must be a better one waiting outthere and we don't have to sacrifice ourselves. but . is that 'someone' really existed?
A feeling is a feeling, it tells only black and white from your mind but never grey. It is just like a thorn in your heart, once you accept it. it'll stay in your heart forever. You can never take it out nor change it because it sticks rite in the middle of your heart..As time goes by. it might die BUT it'd still exisited. The question really is..will you pick the beautiful rose while you know there's thorn underneath it.
"IS the BEAUTY of YOUR rose fulfilled what you NEEDS?" remember. it's NEEDS.. something you must have.. the answer will tell.
Angel Hair
虛榮心? 他/她是一個有感覺人不是什麼東西或物件用來SHOWOFF! 是他/她不是它...太自私la!!
I believe that when 2 people are in a relationship, they both have to accept and tolerate his/her goods and bads. You can't just always complain your loved one's drawbacks, you must accept that he/she has something that you don't like. I mean nobody is perfect. Therefore, you need to TREASURE what he/she got. And through that, the 2 of you can work out anything. Tolerating and accepting your beloved's goods and bads are the road to happiness. This is the life of any relationship in the world.
Personally, I don't see how one can love someone he or she doesn't respect, so the question is a bit strange to me...
LittleGue, when you say respect, do you mean respect his personalities, characteristics or what? When you say you need to respect him, he must have something that you can respect him for, right? Otherwise, you wouldn't start in a relationship with him at the beginning, right?
now respect is simple. u can respect a friend, or even a stranger in a polite way. but here. I believe they're talking about even if you need to admire him/her for you to fall in love. Is this a need?
Angel Hair.
For me, I believe in feelings.
I have never really considered whether to love a person or not based on whether "she" is better than me or not, in any regards. Over the years, I find that a person is respectful in one way or another. He/She may not be respectful in one way, but he/she is always respectful in some other way. You just have to pay closer attention to find out....it may be hard to find....but there is ALWAYS some attibutes in a person that is respectful. If you can't find it, that's because you have spent enough time looking for it. If you are a person that don't want to spend another second trying to discover that little (maybe even tiny) something about the other person and use that to motivate you to love that person, then maybe you are the one that doesn't deserve any respect, or to be loved.
"now respect is simple. u can respect a friend, or even a stranger in a polite way. but here. I believe they're talking about even if you need to admire him/her for you to fall in love. Is this a need? "
Yeah, that's what I mean... if you don't even respect the person more than a stranger or friend, how is it possible to love that person?
Yes, love is all about RESPECT. Its really true that No Respect = No true love! I actually been thru this myself. If you still stay with that person when you don't repect him, its only because of other reasons, or you haven't notice that you don't repect him. Once you do, the love will be over! Its just hard to have a happy ending with a man you don't respect. However, love is truly blind, its possible that you will respect a man who are being looked down by everyone else. A man you don't respect, you will just disagree with everything he does or the way he thinks; you will just find more and more turn-offs in him as time goes by.
if you find more and nmore turns-offs. does that really mean it's over or the excitment is just over? which is normal as times goes by.
Angel Hair.
Just want to get a feedback from anyone, when 2 people just start a relationship, does it have to be equally contributed? I mean one of them might willingly to give out more because of his/her love over the other person. I think for any couples out in the world, there must be some differences between the 2 when talking about contribution, right?
The reason for my "more and more turn-offs" were because I get to know that guy more and I disagree with more things about him, therefore I cannot respect him anymore. So to answer your question, yes it will be over once you get to that point, even if not over, you wont be happy staying with a guy you can't respect. It wasn't about "the sparks are all gone"...cos if there are no more sparks, no necessary mean the love is over, you simple move on to the next level, more stable, less excitment, but the love could be actually deeper. But once you can't respect your man, better end it then suffer later. That was exactly what happened to my last relationship, u got to trust me on this one sis, the love is so much more enjoyable when you love a man you respect :-p
I am not talking about respect here. I am talking about giving out what you have to your other half; how I am willing to give out all I have to her. I wouldn't mind she doesn't do the same equal amount or even much less. As long as she knows that what I have done and treasure them, I will be happy as well. By the way, I am not a girl.
Oh, because the topic posted here is about "Respect" and how can you love someone you "look down" on, thats why I kept talking about it ...anyways, you are correct, what you give out doesnt have to be equal to what you will receive...as long as both of you can comprimise and be happy about it, its all fine...I think most important is to NOT 'counting' the amount of effort (or love) each person is putting out,if you count, that means you mind and it's going to lead to arguments.
Thanks for the reply. Well, I am not "counting" on how much I have given out, but if I haven't told her what I have done, and how much effort I have put in, she doesn't seem like she is treasuring what I have done to her. I really hope she can really understand and treasure it one day, and not complaining about me that other people have which I don't.
I see...oh well, anyhow I hope you and your girlfriend can always work things out, can always happy with each other :)
ya thanks, i hope so too :)
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